Beyond Words

Do you find yourself "upset" when you need to be calm? Do you lie when it would be better to tell the truth? Do you fear even when there is nothing to worry about because it feels normal? Do you find yourself using your most common flaw even when you don't want to? If you're like most of us, you are constantly dealing with people who would rather be right than happy.

Do you find yourself "upset" when you need to be calm? Do you lie when it would be better to tell the truth? Do you fear even when there is nothing to worry about because it feels normal? Do you find yourself using your most common flaw even when you don't want to? If you're like most of us, you are constantly dealing with people who would rather be right than happy.

They are that great class of unfortunate souls who are incapable of admitting they are wrong. They are convinced that their way of living, their way of doing things, is best. These characters wish that the rest of the world would get with their personal program. Then, according to them, everyone would be better off.

Or maybe you have a boss or coworker with a flash-point temper who gets enraged over the silliest things. Some of you might have a spouse or partner who blames you for his or her problems. Do you know anyone who prefers criticism over solutions, or who relishes nurturing resentment? These people have character flaws.

The truth is that everybody has them. Some of us have more than others. You may notice you have them too. Great individuals with high character also have glaring faults. It is precisely because they have such high character that their flaws stand out. The common perception that good people have fewer flaws is wrong. It is not a matter of more or fewer flaws. It is the willingness to change them that counts. If you read the lives of saints and sages you will find that they too had to discipline themselves to improve their character. It is in the process of working on your flaws that you develop great strength of character. Strength of character is what this book is about.