Valentine’s Day: Gifting Energy

©Joseph Cardillo, PhD, author of the critically acclaimed book Body Intelligence: Harness Your Body’s Energies for Your Best Life

Aside from other gifts you can give for Valentine’s Day, you can gift your partner with energy. Remember when you and your partner first started dating? Those were the days when all you had to do was hold your partner’s hand, take a walk along the beach or in the park, and your mind and body were lit. As time goes on in relationships, however, activities often have to get bigger and bigger for the same rewards, which eventually weaken in effect.

So what should you do?

The good news: you absolutely can cultivate the high-quality energy that sparked the luminosity and deep compassionate connection you so enjoyed in the earliest stages of your relationship.

Using your body’s (and mind’s) full energy spectrum will get you there—and pretty quickly. There are many ways, in fact, that you can use this spectrum to access the energies you need to live the life you want, the way you want, on a daily basis. I’m going to say that again because it’s important: on a daily basis. You can do this. You can literally reboot your body and mind into desired energetic states with precise results for the things you do. I want you to know this before we move on to gifting energy for Valentine’s Day because if you like the results you garner, there are many more accessible tools you can use to transform everyday tasks into great energy experiences and a great energy life. And that’s what I want for all of us.

The following is a list of a few body-mind mechanisms you and your partner can gift yourselves and each other to help unlock a flood of high-quality energy. Valentine’s Day is a great time to start.

Use meditation.Start your day by bringing your best Self to your partner. Meditate the night before Valentine’s Day and again in the morning (or as early in the day as you can). Feel the energy of your highest Self (your purest, original nature). Absorb this energy and carry it with you throughout the day. Mindfully tap into it as needed.

Use color. Wear something bright that makes you feel happy, relaxed, and alert.

Tap the power of old memories. Exciting, intimate memories—especially from early in your relationship—work well. Consider going to a favorite place you and your partner enjoyed when you were just meeting and your feelings were soaring. If you biked or hiked or jogged, try this activity again. Put your attention on the sensory details that sparked the way you felt physically and emotionally in the original experience. Feel the experience and download its energy. Reprogram yourself to the way you felt then.

Use the power of fragrance. How about the cologne or perfume your partner wore when you first met or on your wedding day (if you’re married). A very old mechanism deeply ingrained in our body-mind, scent works extremely fast to reboot moods and spark memory and behavior. When attached to emotional memory, its effects will be even stronger.

Use the power of music. Make a special musical playlist with your partner. Include songs—both from the past and currently—that are meaningful to you as a couple, such as a song from a first date, a concert you attended, a trip you took, your wedding, the birth of your child, and so on. As a side benefit, you are now making a new memory that you can use for positive energy in the future.

Use the power of visuals. Make a photo album of pictures that you already have that capture the joys you have experienced as a couple. Make a slide show (with music, if you want) you can place on your cell phone and enjoy together. Take pictures this year, too, so you will have them to help energize you for the rest of the year and beyond.

Use the power of gentle touch and peaceful verbal communication.Consider your partner’s spirit (I mean this nondenominationally). This is who he or she is within. Deepen your listening to reaffirm for your partner that you are here for him or her. See how these two simple things generate good feelings immediately.

Use the power of virtue. Virtue comprises acceptance, compassion, truth, unconditional love, and peace.

Give each other time for reflection. Slow life down and enjoy each other’s unique and full energy being. Enjoy the mutual energy that you are together. Ponder what this feels like. Enjoy the magnificence of the moment. Commit it to memory. Use it for energy throughout the year.

Note: There are many more ways to tap into the energies that influence our body-mind-spirit connection, starting with taking a look at your body’s full and available energy spectrum. For a more in-depth look at how, you may wish to check out my newest book, Body Intelligence: Harness Your Body’s Energies for Your Best Life.