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In the last twenty years, nearly 4000 new studies in psychology and medicine are proving what we intuitively know is true: forgiveness is good for our health and happiness. Numerous studies make the link between resentments and stress-related illness like heart problems, backaches, chronic pain, and sleep problems. Most recently the chief surgeon at The Cancer Care Centers of America stated that he believes there is a strong link between long held resentments and certain cancers. It seems like our growing awareness about the cost of resentment and unforgiveness will be the next big public health issue.
“Let it go – you’ll feel better” is something your grandma probably told you, and chances are good that you thought about forgiving the offender for about a minute and then dismissed the idea. We really don’t want to. Why is it that if we know that forgiveness is good for us, we still have so much resistance to it? I think we resist forgiveness because we misunderstand what it is, and we don’t know how to do it. I want to propose that there are some unfortunate myths out there about forgiveness that need to be dispelled in order for the public to embrace forgiveness as a life skill and a good health habit.
Seriously, did that ever work, for anyone? It doesn’t, and we intuitively know that so we don’t want to try and fail. What we actually need to do is forgive and remember, and turn our wounds into wisdom. Forgiveness isn’t forgetting, excusing bad behavior or allowing people to continue to hurt us.
As Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time.” So, forgive them, for your freedom, but don’t allow them to harm you again.
It isn't any harder than learning how to drive or how to floss your teeth – you have to take a little time and be taught how to do it, and practice. And it doesn’t take forever once you know the steps – most of the time, once you’re educated and ready to go, it takes about an hour. See the steps at www.forgivenesstraining.com
Nope. Forgiveness is actually a private healing experience which you do to release your pain and gain relief and healthy detachment about the person and the situation. You don't have to talk to the offender at all, or find a common understanding, or extract an apology – all that stuff is in the category of “reconciliation,” which is a whole different animal.
The refreshing experience of forgiveness is just for you, and it’s independent of worldly action. In fact, you can forgive and divorce, forgive and prosecute, forgive and put them in jail. You don’t have to keep them in your life if you don’t want to.
Do you really want to believe that there are some things from which you will never heal? Everything can heal, eventually. Some things take longer than others, but they will heal, if you remain open to the healing process.
I've seen many ordinary people forgive some truly terrible things–human beings are phenomenally resilient!
This ancient and troublesome concept of forgiveness is slowly coming into its time. In over 25 years of teaching public forgiveness workshops, I can see a shift in our collective readiness for it. Fewer people are demanding “Why should I forgive,” and more of them are leaning forward to say, “How do I forgive?” These days when I give a public lecture, instead of the room being half empty, there is a scramble to pull a few more chairs into the room. Something is changing, and I’m glad.
On the whole, we human beings are a dicey lot. We are stubborn, cantankerous, violent, and easily offended to the point of hostility towards our fellows. We are also brave, loving, resilient, and called to the highest good for all of us. When one person sincerely and effectively forgives another person, a miracle happens. The stagnant block inside them dissolves and melts away, and the light of their soul slides in to replace it. Their face softens and brightens, their shoulders relax, their breathing deepens, and they look at me with wonder in their eyes. They are experiencing the clearest joy: the cessation of pain and the recognition of their wholeness. It’s beautiful, and I’m in it for the beauty. Thank you for helping me to spread the word about the historically un-sexy concept of forgiveness–it’s good for all of us.
Forgiveness is about more than just letting go. It’s about healing wounds and wiping away scars. It’s about feeling better—physically and emotionally. It’s about living your life with purpose and truly moving forward.
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Forgiveness is about more than just letting go. It’s about healing wounds and wiping away scars. It’s about feeling better—physically and emotionally. It’s about living your life with purpose and truly moving forward.
In Unconditional Forgiveness, Mary Hayes Grieco offers the Eight Steps to Freedom, a simple, effective eight-step program that teaches readers how to completely forgive in order to achieve both emotional and physical well-being. This step-by-step method incorporates emotional, energetic, and spiritual components that are accessible to everyone and offer lasting success.
Grieco walks the reader through each step and addresses the entire spectrum of painful issues, from the everyday mundane to the most difficult, as well as providing a way to forgive one’s self, when necessary. The how to appendix provides a perennial, off-the-shelf reference to swiftly guide readers through the process whenever the need arises. With Grieco’s in-depth yet simple program, your healing can be as swift as it is lasting.
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